June 25, 2019 by Herb Knoll
Following the passing of a wife or life-partner, it is the widower who needs support, not the deceased. So why is it that so many widowed men complain about their sense of abandonment by their families, friends, neighbors, and co-workers following their loss? Behaviors and interactions… Read More
June 4, 2019 by Herb Knoll
“Hi, my name is Richard”. Thus began my knowing a giant of a man named Richard Blount (62) as he sat down in the chair beside me. The occasion was my first meeting at GriefShare, a widely available program for those who have experienced a loss in their… Read More
May 6, 2019 by Herb Knoll
From the time little boys are first able to walk, in some cases even before they can walk, parents begin shaping the psyche of their sons by telling them, “Boys don’t cry. ” Oh really… who says so? Whoever it was, they should be prosecuted for the harm… Read More
March 19, 2019 by Herb Knoll
Men need to have a purpose in life. A reason to get up in the morning. Absent purpose, why live? I hear it in the voices and read it in the posts men make on “Widowers Support Network – Members Only”… Read More
March 12, 2019 by Herb Knoll
Tired of being alone? Whether you’re a divorcee, a widowed man, have never married or even been in a committed relationship, you may someday decide that you are tired of being alone. I completely understand. You see, I’ve been in your shoes as have millions of… Read More
March 5, 2019 by Herb Knoll
“The entire floor misses your laughter,” said the young female staff member standing at my office door. It had been just four months since my bride, Michelle Knoll, had earned her angel wings following her 39 month battle against… Read More
February 6, 2019 by Herb Knoll
„Boys Don’t Cry. It’s not manly. Get over it!” Something was wrong. Men who followed the Facebook page, “Widowers Support Network,” just weren’t actively using it as a grief recovery tool. Then, in March of 2018, it hit me. Widowed men who sought out the services of my ministry, the… Read More
January 15, 2019 by Stanley Kissel Ph.D.
First relationship after being widowed A friend of mine, let’s call him Harry, decided to start dating three months following the death of his wife. They had been married for 44 years. After a few dates he began lamenting, “But they’re not like my wife”. Friends and family members tried… Read More
May 23, 2018 by Stanley Kissel, Ph.D.
How can a widower with young children grief? So your wife just died. Your four year old is puzzled by all the commotion in the house. One minute he is asking for his mother, the next he is playing happily with a favorite toy. Your 11 year old son has… Read More
January 12, 2018 by Stanley Kissle, Ph.D.
I recently heard someone refer to moving forward after the loss of a loved one as “Unlocking Grief.” That started me thinking. The loss of a wife is one of the major traumatic events in a man’s life. As with all traumatic events, the way he copes with it will… Read More