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Guest Columns

Widowers Need To Be Coachable

September 30, 2019 by Herb Knoll

What do Tom Brady, Wayne Gretzky, Michael Jordan, and Derek Jeter all have in common? We could start with a considerable amount of athletic ability. Each has been recognized as among the best of the best in their individual sport.  They also had one secret weapon each used… Read More

Helping Your Children Communicate

August 5, 2019 by Herb Knoll

As a widower, you know that you are not the only one grieving.  Following the loss of your wife, pain is felt by many others, such as your wife’s parents, siblings, relatives, neighbors, co-workers, fellow parishioners, or friends. It can be just as intense as what you experience,… Read More

Moving On After Losing Her

July 23, 2019 by Stanley Kissel, Ph.D.

As a clinical psychologist, I was well aware of the literature on bereavement, especially the five stages of grief as expounded by Elisabeth Kubler-Rosshere. In brief, these stages are: Denial. This is not happening to me. Anger. It’s not fair that this is happening… Read More

Angels walk among us

June 4, 2019 by Herb Knoll

“Hi, my name is Richard”. Thus began my knowing a giant of a man named Richard Blount (62) as he sat down in the chair beside me. The occasion was my first meeting at GriefShare, a widely available program for those who have experienced a loss in their… Read More

Men Need To Have Purpose

March 19, 2019 by Herb Knoll

Men need to have a purpose in life.   A reason to get up in the morning.  Absent purpose, why live? I hear it in the voices and read it in the posts men make on “Widowers Support Network – Members Only”… Read More

First relationship after being widowed

March 12, 2019 by Herb Knoll

Tired of being alone? Whether you’re a divorcee, a widowed man, have never married or even been in a committed relationship, you may someday decide that you are tired of being alone. I completely understand.  You see, I’ve been in your shoes as have millions of… Read More

A Widower’s Wake-up Call

March 5, 2019 by Herb Knoll

“The entire floor misses your laughter,” said the young female staff member standing at my office door.  It had been just four months since my bride, Michelle Knoll, had earned her angel wings following her 39 month battle against… Read More