February 6, 2019 by Herb Knoll
„Boys Don’t Cry. It’s not manly. Get over it!” Something was wrong. Men who followed the Facebook page, “Widowers Support Network,” just weren’t actively using it as a grief recovery tool. Then, in March of 2018, it hit me. Widowed men who sought out the services of my ministry, the… Read More
January 15, 2019 by Stanley Kissel Ph.D.
First relationship after being widowed A friend of mine, let’s call him Harry, decided to start dating three months following the death of his wife. They had been married for 44 years. After a few dates he began lamenting, “But they’re not like my wife”. Friends and family members tried… Read More
May 23, 2018 by Stanley Kissel, Ph.D.
How can a widower with young children grief? So your wife just died. Your four year old is puzzled by all the commotion in the house. One minute he is asking for his mother, the next he is playing happily with a favorite toy. Your 11 year old son has… Read More
January 12, 2018 by Stanley Kissle, Ph.D.
I recently heard someone refer to moving forward after the loss of a loved one as “Unlocking Grief.” That started me thinking. The loss of a wife is one of the major traumatic events in a man’s life. As with all traumatic events, the way he copes with it will… Read More
July 26, 2017 by Stanley Kissel, Ph.D.
When a widowed father finds happiness in his first new relationship, hopefully his adult children will be supportive. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. I recently saw the movie version of “Middle of the Night,’ an adaption of an early Paddy Chayefsky television drama. The movie tells the story… Read More
January 6, 2017 by Stanley Kissel, Ph.D.
Grieving is not a permanent process that follows one of life’s major stresses. Grieving is the body’s way of coping with an overwhelming shock after the loss of a loved one. Some religions prescribe a specific course of behavior following the death of a spouse or family member— tasks to… Read More
December 14, 2016 by Maryann Manelski
3 Ways to Survive Grief During the Holidays The days are dark now here in the northern hemisphere. For those of us grieving lost loved ones, the coming gray of winter is often a better match for our feelings than the gatherings and gifts that mark the holiday season. The… Read More
January 30, 2015 by Stanley Kissel, Ph.D.
The other day I was having lunch with a friend and overheard a conversation between two gentlemen, one of whom was obviously a recent widower. He was lamenting the fact that since his wife died his income was cut almost in half. He also confided to his friend that he… Read More
June 12, 2012 by Phyllis Silverman, Ph.D.
In feminist literature today there is a good deal of emphasis on the way men and women are more alike than not. I would agree that on one level this is true. I know that men and women have similar feelings when someone close dies. Their sense of sadness, loss,… Read More
June 3, 2012 by Gerald J. Schaefer
The loss of your wife takes on a whole new meaning around the holidays. How does a widower move forward without his loved one to reflect on the holiday’s purpose, without sharing good conversation, without celebrating love and enjoying togetherness? It hardly seems possible. Even though the joy and happiness… Read More
