Books

A Handbook for Widowers

Older Couples: New Romances: Finding and Keeping Love in Later Life

By Edith Ankersmit Kemp and Jerrold Kemp.

The book offers inspirational as well as practical advice for finding, attracting, and maintaining a loving partnership in later life. It’s based on a series of interviews with married or committed couples age 55 and older.

Publisher: Celestial Arts, Toronto 2002
ISBN# 1-58761-156-2

One Summer

By David Baldacci.

After the death of his devoted wife, a father struggles to keep his family (three children) together and in the process learns to love again.

2011

The Widower's Toolbox

By Tom Bekkers, MSW, APSW and Gerald J. Schaefer.

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Publisher: New Horizon's Press, Far Hills NJ 2010

The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science of Bereavement Tells Us About Life After Loss

By George A. Bonanno.

Publisher: Basic Books 2009

The New Love and Sex After 60

By Robert N. Butler and Myrna I. Lewis.

Has a good chapter on finding new relationships in addition to chapters on sexual activities (and challenges) for those over 60.

Publisher: Ballentine Books Publishing 2002, 1976
ISBN# 0-345-44211-3

Widower: When Men Are Left Alone

By Scott Campbell and Dr. Phyllis Silverman.

Publisher: Prentice Hall, New York 1996

Widower to Widower: Surviving the End of Your Most Important Relationship

By Fred Colby.

2017
ISBN# 0692891242

Details After Death: Navigating the logistics after a loved one dies (5th Edition)

By Mark R. Colgan.

2017
ISBN# 0692854126

Living with Grief: Who We Are, How We Grieve

By Kenneth J. Doka and Davidson Joyce D. Foreword by Jack Gordon.

Publisher: Routledge 1998

Men Don’t Cry, Women Do: Transcending Gender Stereotypes of Grief

By Kenneth J. Doka and T. Martin. Foreword by Dr. Therese A. Rando.

Publisher: Routledge 1999

Why Her, Why Now: A Man’s Journey Through Love and Death and Grief

By Lon Elmer.

Old, but a classic.

Publisher: Signal Elm Press, Seattle, Washington 1987
ISBN# 0-944844-47-2

I’m grieving as fast as I can: How young widows and widowers can cope and heal

By Linda Feinberg.

Support guide for young widows and widowers, advice and shared experiences.

Publisher: New Horizon Press 1994

The Way Men Heal

By Thomas R. Golden, LCSW.

When a Man Faces Grief / A Man You Know Is Grieving

By Thomas R. Golden, LCSW and James E. Miller.

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Swallowed by a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing

By Thomas R. Golden, LCSW.

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Publisher: HG Publishing

Without

By Donald Hall.

This book of poems speaks to grief as a poet lamenting the death of a poet, and as a husband mourning the death of his wife.

Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Co, Boston, Massachusetts 1998
ISBN# 0-395-88408

Dating a Widower: Starting a Relationship with a Man Who’s Starting Over

By Abel Keogh.

Dating a Widower is your 101 guide to having a relationship with a man who’s starting over. It also contains over a dozen real life stories from women who have gone down the same road you’re traveling. It’s the perfect book to help you decide if the man you’re seeing is ready for a new relationship—and whether or not dating a widower is right for you.

The Ultimate Dating Guide for Widowers

By Abel Keogh.

Men and women grieve differently. Though both feel the pain and sorrow that come with losing a spouse, widowers start dating much sooner than widows—usually within the first year of their wife’s passing. While there’s nothing wrong with dating again that quickly, widowers often get into relationships before they’re emotionally ready to take that step. That causes problems for them and the women they are dating. This book looks at the success stories and learning experiences of Joe Biden, Thomas Edison, Peirce Brosnan, and Paul McCartney.

Life with a Widower: Overcoming Unique Challenges and Creating a Fulfilling Relationship

By Abel Keogh.

If you’re dating or married to a widower, you’ve encountered relationship issues that other couples just don’t have to deal with. Whether it’s the comments on his late wife’s Facebook page or the tattoo commemorating the love of his life, there are some situations that are unique to widower relationships. Drawing on over a decade of experience helping women in relationships with widowers, Abel Keogh tackles the most common, day-to-day widower relationship challenges so you can gracefully navigate and overcome them.

The Widower's Journey

By Herb Knoll.

With Deborah Carr Ph.D. and Robert L. Frick.

2017
ISBN# 1541344065

Living with Loss, One Day at a Time

By Rachel Kodanaz.

Publisher: Fulcrum Publishing 2013

When Men Grieve: Why Men Grieve Differently and How You Can Help

By Elizabeth Levang, Ph.D.

Publisher: Fairview Press 1998

A Grief Observed

By CS Lewis.

A sensitive and powerful story of the author’s grief experience after the death of his wife. Lewis reflects on the fundamental issues of life, death and faith in the midst of loss. This book acknowledges how one can lose all sense of meaning in the universe and eventually regain his or her bearings.

Publisher: The Seabury Press, New York 1961

The Healing Power of Love: Transcending the Loss of a Spouse to New Love

By Gloria Lintermans and Marilyn Stolzman.

This is a collection of 12 stories from widows and widowers of all ages, from all walks of life and situations, sharing their new loving relationships.

Publisher: Champion press, Wisconsin 2006
ISBN# 1932783512

Cowbells and Courage

By Patrick W. Page.

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Into the Cave: When Men Grieve

By Dr. Ronald G. Petrie.

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Grief: The Lonely Road/A Widower’s Journey Toward Hope

By Marvin Petsel.

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Publisher: Embers4growth Publishing 2014

How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies

By Therese A. Rando, Ph.D., BCETS, BCBT.

Publisher: Bantam Books, New York 1991

My Compass, Our Story: A Journey Through Death and Life

By Mike Russell.

Publisher: T Michael Healing Arts 2017
ISBN# 9780989659383

99 things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating after 40, 50 and Yes, 60!

By Rosalind Sedacca and Amy Sherman.

A Woman’s Guide to Avoiding Dating Disasters.

ISBN# 978-0-9866629-4-2

Suddenly Solo

By March Silbert and Harold Spielman.

Publisher: Ideation Consulting 2012

A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss

By Jerry Sittser.

Written by a man whose mother, wife, and young daughter were killed in motor vehicle accident. “The experience of loss does not have to be the defining moment of our lives. Instead, the defining moment can be our response to the loss.”

Publisher: Zondervan Publishing, Grand Rapids, Michigan 1995, 2004
ISBN# 0-310-25895-2

Seniors in Love: A Second Chance for Single, Divorced, and Widowed Seniors

By Robert Wolley.

Deals with the emotional, financial, physical, and other relevant issues facing seniors when considering a new, intimate relationship. Topics covered include: What is love? Should one fall in love again – at an advanced age? What will the children say? What rewards are possible? What happens when love fails? How does one express, and receive, love? Do seniors love, and make love differently?

Organizations with Information About Grief

National Funeral Directors

Hospice Foundation of America