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Guest Columns

Hey Widowers – What’s Your Hurry?

January 7, 2020 by Herb Knoll

Suddenly, it hits you, you’re a widower, and you don’t want to live the rest of your life alone. You always knew that most women outlive their husbands, so the chances were good that you would never be widowed, and you wouldn’t have to worry… Read More

A widower’s Christmas wish list

December 3, 2019 by Herb Knoll

From as far away as Australia to the British Isles, from Canada to Nigeria, the Widowers Support Network hears the cries of men who mourn the loss of their wife, their soul mates, their partners in life. Widowed men don’t ask for much, never have, never will. After all, men… Read More

To marry or not to marry

November 5, 2019 by Stanley Kissel, Ph.D.

The grieving process has neither a set order nor number of stages a widower has to pass through.  The process is different for everyone and very personal. So too is the process of answering the question of whether to live together or to remarry.  Grieving… Read More

Widowers Need To Be Coachable

September 30, 2019 by Herb Knoll

What do Tom Brady, Wayne Gretzky, Michael Jordan, and Derek Jeter all have in common? We could start with a considerable amount of athletic ability. Each has been recognized as among the best of the best in their individual sport.  They also had one secret weapon each used… Read More

Helping Your Children Communicate

August 5, 2019 by Herb Knoll

As a widower, you know that you are not the only one grieving.  Following the loss of your wife, pain is felt by many others, such as your wife’s parents, siblings, relatives, neighbors, co-workers, fellow parishioners, or friends. It can be just as intense as what you experience,… Read More

Moving On After Losing Her

July 23, 2019 by Stanley Kissel, Ph.D.

As a clinical psychologist, I was well aware of the literature on bereavement, especially the five stages of grief as expounded by Elisabeth Kubler-Rosshere. In brief, these stages are: Denial. This is not happening to me. Anger. It’s not fair that this is happening… Read More

Angels walk among us

June 4, 2019 by Herb Knoll

“Hi, my name is Richard”. Thus began my knowing a giant of a man named Richard Blount (62) as he sat down in the chair beside me. The occasion was my first meeting at GriefShare, a widely available program for those who have experienced a loss in their… Read More