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Surviving the Holidays

Christine Baumgartner, a widow and professional dating and relationship coach provides an ongoing blog addressing the needs of widowers and their families as they try to adjust to the challenges of entering new relationships. Visit her blog at ThePerfectCatch.com and and read her bio here.

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Why women talk

January 15, 2019

Let’s talk a little about your conversations with the women in your life. These could be daughters, daughters-in-law, mother, aunts, female colleagues – generally any women you come into contact with during your day. Do some of these women regularly claim that you’re “not listening” or… Read More

Challenges of dating when you have kids

January 8, 2019

You’ve met a woman and you really like her. You think there’s potential for a new happy future with her. You introduce her to your kids, hoping they’ll be happy for you. But they’re not. What now? First of all, let me say, you’ve got lots… Read More

How to build your self-confidence

January 2, 2019

When widowers start to enter the dating world, they may find themselves lacking self-confidence and wondering: “Can a new woman love me as much as my late wife did?” They have a hard time imagining that they could find someone who would love… Read More

All those feelings that come up around the holidays

December 11, 2018

As the holidays approach, I start hearing from folks in my widowhood community. They talk about the variety of feelings holidays are bringing up for them. Holidays were always ‘her thing’ A widower, with sadness and confusion in his voice, tells me that the holidays were… Read More

Ideas for you if you decide you ARE ready to start dating.

December 4, 2018

My last post talked about “How to know if you’re ready to start dating”. If you think you might be ready to start meeting women (and maybe even dive into the dating world), today’s post is for you. Ideas for you to start dating Let’s talk… Read More

How will you know when you’re ready to start dating?

November 27, 2018

Are you ready to start dating? It’s very important to take your time while grieving. Ultimately, no one else can tell you when you’re ready to date. There isn’t anything linear about grieving… everyone goes at their own pace. It’s a challenging journey filled with lots of ups and downs,… Read More

Grieving is like a Roller Coaster in the Fog

November 20, 2018

I’m grateful to be writing to widowers with my thoughts on grieving and on dating after loss. My experience is personal (I was widowed six years ago) and professional (my coaching practice includes widows and widowers). What was grieving like to me I don’t think anyone could have prepared me… Read More