• This is the second of two blogs on this topic. Part One outlined the Risk Factors, while Part Two deals with some solutions for the issues identified below. There are several major risk factors faced by Widowers during their first year of grieving. A continue Reading...

    January 13, 2025

    By Fred Colby

  • This is the first of two blogs on this topic. Part Two will deal with solutions to each of the following issues. There are several major risk factors faced by Widowers during their first year of grieving. Any of these can lead to life-threatening men continue Reading...

    January 2, 2025

    By Fred Colby

  • I am a somatic therapist dedicated to helping individuals navigate life's challenges with greater resilience and emotional balance. Having experienced the loss of my spouse, I understand firsthand how overwhelming grief can be. However, I also know t continue Reading...

    December 21, 2024

    By Jane Dembling

  • Shortly after my wife of 45 years passed in 2015, I found myself buried in grief. I knew I was in trouble and could not find the answers by myself. So, I asked, “Where can I go for help?” I knew a little about therapy but had never really taken advan continue Reading...

    December 16, 2024

    By Fred Colby

  • Many will tell you within a week of your wife’s passing that you must steel yourself against the trauma of upcoming special days and holidays. We each are likely to have very different experiences during these special days. Much of your reaction will continue Reading...

    December 1, 2024

    By Fred Colby

  • O.K. Roll your eyes! I was roped into watching the new Golden Bachelorette television series. My expectations were low after watching the initial Golden Bachelor series with its sometimes-uncomfortable competition between the women contestants, and t continue Reading...

    November 15, 2024

    By Fred Colby

  • Living a good life in today's world is no small accomplishment. It is easy to succumb to anger and stress given the many challenges in our everyday lives, and so often others are trying to amplify those negative feelings so they can sell “their” solu continue Reading...

    November 2, 2024

    By Fred Colby

  • On the evening of June 29, 2015, I began a journey for which I was ill-prepared. After holding my wife as she passed, I entered the grieving experience with no idea of what to expect along the way. For the first couple of weeks, I experienced the “Nu continue Reading...

    October 18, 2024

    By Fred Colby

  • If you were a caregiver for your wife for an extended time, there is a good chance that you experienced anticipatory grief. Expectation of imminent death can be both a blessing and a curse. Our aversion to admitting that she will die may cause us to continue Reading...

    October 4, 2024

    By Fred Colby

  • When our wives die, we often lose the one person who loved us: • Unreservedly, • no matter what idiotic things we did, • despite our failings, our weaknesses, and our bad habits, and • even though we may have failed them at times. All of these “faili continue Reading...

    September 20, 2024

    By Fred Colby

  • It is easy during the first year or so after your wife’s passing to become so immersed in your own grief that you ignore the grief others are feeling. Let’s face it, during this time our grief is overwhelming! It often blocks out everything else so t continue Reading...

    September 5, 2024

    By Fred Colby

  • A year before my wife’s passing, she began to experience upsetting physical and mental conditions, including skin rashes and stress. This continued for a while with her unable to determine the cause or to find solutions after visiting a couple of doc continue Reading...

    August 22, 2024

    By Fred Colby