This is the second of two articles on topics often seen as taboo. Failing to confront important topics only makes our ability to heal even more difficult than it already is. Part 1 dealt with Suicidal Thoughts. Part 2 article deals with Sexual Desire continue Reading...

Most widowers, even the more extroverted of us, tend to shy away from discussing topics that seem too personal, too sensitive, or just plain uncomfortable. As men, we are trained to keep these things to ourselves. So we just don’t discuss them privat continue Reading...

During our early stages of discombobulated, slightly psychotic, and often delusional widower behavior, we may find ourselves reacting inappropriately in public, private, and even intimate settings. These may cause intense emotional pain, self-condemn continue Reading...

As I sit here on the deck of a beautiful cabin set in Colorado’s White National Forest, I cannot help but think back to my visit here ten years ago, almost to the day. That visit was about ten days after my wife had passed after a six-month battle wi continue Reading...

As we become widowers, many of us struggle with the question of “if” and “when” is it appropriate to start dating? Some of the things we are fearful of are: • making unforgivable mistakes, • embarrassing ourselves, • being taken advantage of, • offen continue Reading...

Don’t feel alone if you are thinking that you will NEVER be happy again... much less able to be successful again in important areas of your life. After losing your wife, life just does not seem to be worth living anymore. However, immersing yourself continue Reading...

As we said at every meeting of my online grief group, “It will never be the same again!” Nothing shakes up your world and self-identity like the loss of your wife. When Theresa, my wife of 45 years, passed in 2015 I lost three of the four legs that s continue Reading...

During the first year of being a widower, we often find ourselves: • Unable to sleep more than 2 – 4 hours a night, • Sinking into a depression with constant sobbing, • Unable to determine what is real and what is unreal, • Craving to have a woman in continue Reading...

Grief can be like a cancer, festering in your body and soul until it corrupts and destroys all that is good in you. If left alone or ignored while it mutates into something that threatens your very existence, grief can: • send you to a hospital with continue Reading...

Why did I agree to meet “French Kiss” one cold winter’s morning? After all, when I first started online dating via Match.com, I learned very quickly to avoid replying to the “friend requests” from cute young gals about half my age, usually accompanie continue Reading...

“What a powerful brotherhood I found when I discovered this book. It taught me that I am not alone in my grief, thoughts and conflicting emotions. There truly is “strength in numbers.” Get this book: It can be game changer for you.” Arnold L. This qu continue Reading...

In my younger days I would often bristle at others when they challenged my position, decision, or recommendation. I could be stubborn and hold on to my viewpoint well after it was proven wrong. As you might expect, this could often lead to uncomforta continue Reading...