The following is a summary of an often-told story that offers a valuable perspective on how we might regard grief. Hope you enjoy it. Fred Colby, Author The famous writer, Franz Kafka, once encountered a little girl in the park where he went walking continue Reading...

When you become a widower and begin to enter the dating scene, you may hear the term “unicorn” being bandied about by women you encounter during this period. I heard it often during the first couple of years after my wife passed. Overall, this is a g continue Reading...

I found myself in a predicament one Thanksgiving eight years ago. It surprised me. Suddenly my grief (which I thought was under control 1½ years after my wife’s death) re-emerged full force. I escaped to my master closet and sunk down to my knees as continue Reading...

For those of us who lost our wives later in life, you may soon hear the not-so-subtle suggestions that it is time for you to: • retire, • move into a senior living complex or assisted living center, or • give power-of-attorney over your life to someo continue Reading...

Remember that feeling of peace, that feeling of being comfortable with yourself, your circumstances, and your marriage? Maybe you were 10, 20, or even 30 years into your marriage before you reached this point. Many of us were fortunate enough to have continue Reading...

Remember Frankie Valli’s hit song, “Big Girls Don’t Cry?” Many of us can probably sing a few verses. Well, like you, I learned the hard way that as widowers, BIG BOYS ALSO CRY! And we often find it to be a shock to our system. Nothing can be more dis continue Reading...

We often underestimate the power of something as simple as a hug. Yet research shows that physical touch—especially among friends—can play a vital role in emotional healing, reducing stress, and deepening trust. For men coping with grief or lonelines continue Reading...

Some of our best learning opportunities come from our worst experiences. I have had a few of those, and over time realized that I could learn something from each one. My Personal Example: Prior to losing my wife, one of my worst experiences was being continue Reading...

If you were as well trained as I was, you learned early on in your marriage to always put the toilet seat down! There is nothing that can earn the wrath of your wife more than going to the bathroom in the dark at night and sitting down on a piss-wet continue Reading...

This is the second of two articles on topics often seen as taboo. Failing to confront important topics only makes our ability to heal even more difficult than it already is. Part 1 dealt with Suicidal Thoughts. Part 2 article deals with Sexual Desire continue Reading...

Most widowers, even the more extroverted of us, tend to shy away from discussing topics that seem too personal, too sensitive, or just plain uncomfortable. As men, we are trained to keep these things to ourselves. So we just don’t discuss them privat continue Reading...

During our early stages of discombobulated, slightly psychotic, and often delusional widower behavior, we may find ourselves reacting inappropriately in public, private, and even intimate settings. These may cause intense emotional pain, self-condemn continue Reading...