I recently heard someone refer to moving forward after the loss of a loved one as “Unlocking Grief.” That started me thinking. The loss of a wife is one of the major traumatic events in a man’s life.
When a widower finds happiness in his first new relationship, hopefully his adult children will be supportive. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. I recently saw the movie version of “Middle of the Night,’ an adaption of an early Paddy Chayefsky tevevision drama.
Grieving is not a permanent process that follows one of life’s major stresses. Grieving is the body’s way of coping with an overwhelming shock after the loss of a loved one.
3 Ways to Survive Grief During the Holidays
The days are dark now here in the northern hemisphere. For those of us grieving lost loved ones, the coming gray of winter is often a better match for our feelings than the gatherings and gifts that mark the holiday season.
The other day I was having lunch with a friend and overheard a conversation between two gentlemen, one of whom was obviously a recent widower. He was lamenting the fact that since his wife died his income was cut almost in half.
In feminist literature today there is a good deal of emphasis on the way men and women are more alike than not. I would agree that on one level this is true.
The loss of your wife takes on a whole new meaning around the holidays. How does a widower move forward without his loved one to reflect on the holiday’s purpose, without sharing good conversation, without celebrating love and enjoying togetherness?
As a clinical psychologist, I was well aware of the literature on bereavement, especially the five stages of grief as expounded by Elisabeth Kubler-Rosshere. In brief, these stages are: